Sometimes you have days when only your middle finger can answer
questions.
Pinterest Platitudes
One of my friends recently lost her Mom. We were chatting
this morning about the stupid things that people have said to her in the last
week that really made her angry. I heard the same platitudes when I lost a
loved one, and I’m sure you have too. Here are 5 things that you should never
say to someone who’s lost a loved one.
- They’ve gone to a better place: The Four Seasons is a better place. To the best of my knowledge my loved one is not spending eternity at the Four Seasons. So, unless you’ve gone and come back to give me a report on how fabulous the afterlife is – SHUT UP
- It’s a blessing: Today is not a day I feel blessed; I’ve just lost a loved one. What I feel is broken hearted and shattered. There is no blessing involved, you idiot!
- You’re lucky you’ve had them for so long: Are you completely off your rocker to even remotely suggest that I feel lucky today???? What world are you living in that you can equate loss with luck, by any stretch of the imagination.
- They’ve lived their lives: Who the hell made you the judge and jury on whether my loved one has lived enough years? I’ll never be ready to lose someone I love, no matter how old they are. And, you’re a complete moron to think differently.
- It must be a relief: It’s a relief to pass an exam. It’s a relief to get the new job you really wanted. Losing a loved one is never a relief, you imbecile!
Instead of all of these ridiculous platitudes which are
stupid and hurtful, say something honest:
- · I’m sorry for your loss.
- · It sucks!
- · I know how you feel (if you do).
- · There’s nothing that I can say to make it better.
- · If you want to talk, or cry, or vent, I’m here for you.
Raise your hand if you have had quite enough unsolicited advice about
what should be done with any lemons life may or may not give you.
Kathy R. Jeffords
Make someone smile today.
Geri
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